Dating a professor in graduate school
Breaking those rules could jeopardize the professor's job.
If you're at an institution where there aren't official rules about dating, there are most likely some guidelines or unofficial community expectations. Is it OK to date a professor, so long as you're not in one of his or her classes?
Privacy and trust in who you are matched with are of the utmost importance.
Even if the professor isn't the student's professor when the relationship starts, problems could arise if the student ends up in the professor's class later on. I worked in a law firm with rampant banging at work by the partners. The chair may be eventually able to get rid of the guy due to performance issues. Glad OP and other advisees are going to the department chair.And because many advisers think that stress, anxiety, and feeling overwhelmed (all potential signs of something more serious) are a normal part of grad school, they are often reluctant to suggest students seek help. It might be a joke, but it’s one that reveals certain heteronormative gender expectations. I simply did not hear this piece of advice directed at me as a woman.Better advice: If you are feeling depressed or overwhelmed, contact your university’s counseling center. Instead, I received somewhat different advice from women who’d been to grad school: Only date someone in grad school if you think you will be in a long-term relationship with them.
Your not going to get anything by trying to uncover their affair at this point.